So I didn't grind him...

Kini big deal?

continued from my last...

Anyway I was at another party where the DJ played mostly crunk and hip hop I was definitely in my dance mode with a bunch of other girls when a few guys joined in and disappeared with some of the girls to their quiet grinding corners.

Girls can be wicked when guys are thrown in the equation.

So, this my so-called acquaintance who's my best guy friend during the week (we rarely talk during weekends) comes to dance. As my buddy, I danced without even thinking; facing him just enjoying myself without bothering if he was in front of me or not. He vexed and wanted me to turn around. Oya o! I turned but lai lai, I'm a temple. Ok, I was just having fun dutty whining and cranking Soujah-boy, didn't having to be all over his thighs.

(He dey crase think say I no get sense).

I continued dancing mindlessly with no body contact (though in my mind I was just laughing at the deprived poor guy...!) Thing is 80% of the girls there would jump at the opportunity to dance with this dude. Apparently he is some hot somebody. Sha, I saw a friend and ran to say hi. I'm sure he was singing praises.

Okay, this guy can be stand out as a man-skank during parties (take it from me. I'll rather he get paid for the lap dances he gives those his girls, then he can concentrate on that side hustle not my inability to satisfy his grindly desires). The music started crunking my head for me and I left. Later I saw (in a bulletin) that he was leading/ preaching at evening service in our school church (I'm still trying not to judge oh!)

From Monday till Friday, we'll see hug, talk about personal issues and once people even thought we were dating. We rarely talk during weekend parties. Now he has a girlfriend so I'm free of grind-threats... though he's hardly faithful to her in that department.

Hmmmm!

Omo grind for me.

I remember the birth of this dancing style into secondary schools and the drama that came along with it. Wonder if its ever going to fade away partly because in facebook albums younger and younger facebook friends are uploading albums with their J.Los (as my friend says) all the way wherever it it when they are seriously in the grind.

In secondary school, I had a 'friend' who'd gossip all day about who was grinding who, the girl she saw, the guy, blah blah. A friend told me that in her school, one girl took pictures of all the grinders (when grinding was supposedly a bad people thing), printed them and brought them to school the next term= paparazzi shots. Now, its not a big deal but that was 5 years ago.

I watched a comedian (Nigerian) say that back in the day, guys faced the girl to show off their 'baffs' or clothing but now girls (who hardly see/check out the guys clothes), in the wake of feminism, are using their 'feminist' powers to punish guys using grinding skills, and when they go all the way down and back up, CHEI!!! (I'm typing in the comedians tone oh!)


(I mean the guy is the only one enjoying. See, I'll rather the satisfaction be mutual and I don't want no guy grinding on me biko! I'm too feminist joh!)

Watch: http://new.bolaji.net/video/play/259/323 (Mr. Lecturer on grinding)


I have really only slow danced with boo, arms around, facing, really close but not any different from if I was slow dancing with any other 'friend' like at senior dance. Even if I'm backing him, its nothing sensual or steamy. I was at a party where everyone stopped dancing to watch this girl (senior year) grind/ hump this poor young man (sophomore). She was really into (early cougar-isms) as in it was soooo intense and 'out of this world' that it was like we were in a cinema (free with chips and soda) and they were the movie (low budget perhaps). She didn't win an Oscar (Akon did in Trinidad) or the guy! She graduated and he found him a freshman girl to date.

Maybe I'm too feminist to be okay 'serving' a guy. That feels like submissiveness (to me) only that there's music playing with disco lights. I don't conform. Somehow I think its classy even though the guy I danced with but didn't grind is thinking I'm Mother Theresa. I either love myself too much or hold my self in extremely high esteem or try to be virtuous and limit the level of man contact.

Another comedian (American) cracked some joke about some chic who was all over him in the club grinding him left right and center. When the party was over, he invited her to 'watch a movie,' actually just to hook up and she started vexing that she's not a whore and all, dude was like "what you were doing in the club sold you out as one" that's why he 'innocently' wanted booty. Guys are funny, I can imagine him asking me for more afterwards. Take about the impression girls send and the way guys interpret.


Did anyone see the viral video of the 4year olds grinding, I felt so bad for the young girl.....

Sorry, spilling my thoughts....tell me what you think. Grinders opinion especially wanted.

So is grinding just fun with everyone, intimate with 'him only', girl-liberating power, or man-serving?

(more grinding posts to come).