New Blogs and taking a break

They might not be new but I only started reading and I love already!

Ready dee: http://readydee.blogspot.com/ (tags- sex, abuse, marriage, first times, virginity) You'll like if you like Aloted, Writefreak, Solomonsydelle and Oluwadee!!! Hehe

Phat girl- http://imaphatgurl.blogspot.com/

Sorry, I need to fast from blogville for many reasons including the time of the year when work is at its peak...Till I return (in some months time)!!!!

Peace!

The other man

One hard thing about having a boyfriend that I haven't seen in over 6 weeks is the temptation factor.

During that 'no seeing' period, to I was at a party and I met this guy. He was a DJ and some of my friends were hosting the party. I dunno whether he was mixing business with pleasure but I left the dancehall to a quieter lounge (so I could call boo) and he came and joined me (boo's phone was unavailable) then the DJ and I started talking.

I think communication can be my strenght because I probably wowed the brother with information after 'random' interesting gist because he wasn't expecting me to gist with him about the middle of nowhere country he originally comes from...hehe, lol!

He gave me his phone to enter my 'contact' so he could add me as a facebook friend and send pictures of the party. He added me asap, I saw his pictures and the guy fine sha, just very narcissistic with an abundance of sezzy pictures, and chics.

To 'amebo' outsiders, I got game until I broke the news to them. It was merely business. I didn't give him my number. He never even emailed the pictures and I didn't ask.

He is 'in a relationship' on facebook.

Whatever!!!! I have a boyfriend.

Going private or quitting

I think I should be going private pretty soon or quiting blogville all together.

It's the same reasons as others.

Happy Easter!!!!

All the same, God is Love and True Love Waits!

Maiden all the way from Abuja.

post your emails incase sha.

So I didn't grind him...

Kini big deal?

continued from my last...

Anyway I was at another party where the DJ played mostly crunk and hip hop I was definitely in my dance mode with a bunch of other girls when a few guys joined in and disappeared with some of the girls to their quiet grinding corners.

Girls can be wicked when guys are thrown in the equation.

So, this my so-called acquaintance who's my best guy friend during the week (we rarely talk during weekends) comes to dance. As my buddy, I danced without even thinking; facing him just enjoying myself without bothering if he was in front of me or not. He vexed and wanted me to turn around. Oya o! I turned but lai lai, I'm a temple. Ok, I was just having fun dutty whining and cranking Soujah-boy, didn't having to be all over his thighs.

(He dey crase think say I no get sense).

I continued dancing mindlessly with no body contact (though in my mind I was just laughing at the deprived poor guy...!) Thing is 80% of the girls there would jump at the opportunity to dance with this dude. Apparently he is some hot somebody. Sha, I saw a friend and ran to say hi. I'm sure he was singing praises.

Okay, this guy can be stand out as a man-skank during parties (take it from me. I'll rather he get paid for the lap dances he gives those his girls, then he can concentrate on that side hustle not my inability to satisfy his grindly desires). The music started crunking my head for me and I left. Later I saw (in a bulletin) that he was leading/ preaching at evening service in our school church (I'm still trying not to judge oh!)

From Monday till Friday, we'll see hug, talk about personal issues and once people even thought we were dating. We rarely talk during weekend parties. Now he has a girlfriend so I'm free of grind-threats... though he's hardly faithful to her in that department.

Hmmmm!

IN YOUR FACE

One interesting thing about blogville is that commenters always seem to have your back except they sign in as 'anonymous,' they/ we seem to always be nice.

One blog posted on topic A, and the commenters cheered.

The the other blog posted on the flip-opposite topic B, and the commenters cheered.
(Some gave excuses for supporting A though).

Thanks for your comments the last time. But I got thinking why my 'status' should offend anyone. I could have blogged about my academic life, Abuja adventures, career goals, poetry, lifestyle, etc, but I choose 'abstinence' because as a blogspot reader, I couldn't relate to some blogs' content and in order to find a 'place,' I started my blog with a theme.

Having a theme keeps me from posting random posts and stay on track while narrating my experiences and dilemmas.

Through blogging, I have found an anonymous support group, and talk about things that I would talk about in class, church, while hanging out, or on the streets.

Virginity, sex, abstinence, aristos, guys, pervs..all that jazz.

Everyone know the bloggers with 3kids, the one who relocated to Nigeria, newly married guy, born-again, makeup artist, calabar indigene, budding designer, Island dwellers, married-a-virgin, NYSCorper.... Those are their themes.

Are the barren, 'stuck' green hard immigrants, unmarried, bad-at-makeup, not-from-calabar, untalented, Mainland locals, kpanshing-obsessed, underclassmen offended???

Maybe the 'virgin' stuff is in ones face, I'll change it...but Hey, that's my theme!!!! Sorry, all the other bloggers should start saying sorry.

I apologize for my blogdoings.

Should I change my layout or not?

p.s. I'm not angry oh!

Needle in haystack

I reached a breakdown point. I almost cried.

Why should I regret that I have some pride of my own?

Why should being a virgin and choosing to wait-till-marriage be something should be ashamed of?

Why do virgins have bad reputations? negative stereotypes?

What is wrong if I have something that you would never, ever have? It doesn't make you better than me or vice versa.

I though blogging would give me some strength but the reason I started blogging in the first place hasn't been accomplished. I feel worse that when I started. And the worse part is that the people I thought would be encouraging (aka some church goers) seem hypocritical. I thought Christianity was so much more that making noise, spitting verses or attending church. Why do people scream Jesus, speak in tongues, burn Holy spirit fire ('while I'm not') but be the first to brag about their pre-church activities to me?

Sorry, I'm just angry, upset, furious........phewwwwww!!!!!!!!! AHHHHH!!!!!

The ATM Card

ATM= Abstinence Till Marriage. Get it?

I was at a shopping mall when a someonr gave me this card. It looked just like a Debit card.

Credit crunch solution or what??????

The card has the place where you put your signature under an agreement to remain sexually abstinent until marriage. Its not really about being a virgin (or not) more of celibacy (100% guard against STDs, HIV-AIDS, Pregnancy, Heartbreak, and for Christians and other religious preaching 'wait till marriage' to live according to God's command-If lying is a big deal, I guess there are 9 other commandments to follow).

I quote the ATM card,

"100% effective way to avoid physical and emotional consequences of premarital sex, ..enhance my future relationships", and

the expiry date- "wedding day"

hehehe....(guess God wasn't trying to punish us but help us when Moses/Musa wrote those laws down.)

Website: http://www.wait4yourmate.com/

I don't need a card to make me stick to my morals. Or it might work like a purity ring if it stays in your wallet.

I checked out the website (above) and found out that its not even a Christian program. Its actually for High-school teenagers but just so you know.

Peace!