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Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Purity Rings (reposted)

Jonas brothers got blasted by Russel Brand (The worse VMA awards host ever) for wearing promise rings to pledge purity and be virgins till marriage.

The Jo-bros reacted with the comment rings are "a promise to ourselves and to God that we'll stay pure 'till marriage," and "it's [purity rings] pretty awesome, and the rings are just one of our ways of kind of like being different than everybody else out there."

The sales of purity rings went up. See even celebrity endorsements can make people 'wait.'


E! had this documentary on diamonds and mentioned Utah state's "Wait for the Bling" abstinence campaign. As you can guess, bad response! More Celebs, reality show stars are proudly preaching abstinence through their purity rings and you all know what celeb endorcement does.

One of my older girlfriends is one person everyone is jealous of. Explanation: she's just a 'good' girl. She has mad fun (never see her party hard but never grinding) dress hot but never indecent, intelligent but not nerdy and will proudly tell you in the cafeteria that her religion and culture want her to wait till marriage. All round obviously not perfect because no one is quite perfect but graduated first class with honors, has a great job with a top Fortune 500 firm and the sweetest boyfriend ever ($$$$). That's just an amebo (gossip) summary!

Anyway, I saw for the first time the TRUE LOVE WAITS (TLW) promise ring on her finger. I always used to read about them and saw pictures of Yankee folks wearing them in magazines.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Purity_ring

I want to get one for my birthday or for Christmas or valentines in case boo disappoints. Though it doesn't guarantee sticking to plan its a constant reminder like why do people wear wedding rings and still divorce? Or why do people not wear their wedding bling and still stick together. To an extent its a commercialized thing because our mothers didn't have to wear purity ring to remain a virgins/ be celibate till marriage and apparently, Beyonce isn't wearing a ring to prove Jay belongs to her.

Anyway, purity rings are the trend amongst my kind of folks so I'm keeping up and its also a money making move. Lol! Seriously, engagement rings, wedding rings, commitment rings all those things didn't exist back in the day, ring or no ring you better be a virgin (or pretend) else they'll ship you to the evil forest (Igbo style). Lol!

Rings are simply just a reminder of your 'vow.' It is usually to be replaced with a wedding ring. People reclaim virginity (after losing it to bad relationships, repentance, assaults etc) and because shit happens and they decide to be celibate till marriage so they also rock this 'bling.'

True Love Waits believers, if you wanna purchase any:

http://promiseringsovernight.com/

http://www.cornerstonejewelrydesigns.com/catalog/purity-rings-c-50.html

http://www.factory79.com/catalog.php?category=True%20Love%20Waits

19 comments:

talesandtallies said...

i think the purity rings are just more of pop culture sorts, thats why the trend is really crazy ryt nw... the important thing is not the ring itself but the promise it represents. miley has it, selena gomez, julianne hough. they really shouldnt abuse the significance of the ring especially tho their fans if they aren't gonna stick to their promise down the line

MissLove said...

I want one too even though ....ok so it can make me a celibate sha :) but I think its a trend although one that could possibly never go out of fashion..whoo hoo im 2nd!

FFF said...

i don't have any opinions on virginity or having sex. although, wen i have my daughter i'd want her 2 wait (not sure right now 4 how long, but i guess if i don't say till marriage some would think am encouraging her 2 go out there & b a ho). i have a friend who wanted 2 remain a virgin till marriage. she got consecrated & all. today? she's very far 4rm being a virgin! very far! some times, i wish she had stuck 2 her gun. like 'yeah, daz one person who said it & meant it' hmm. really don't know.

honestly, i think it's weird dat beyonce refused 2 wear her wedding ring. oh well. na dem sabi. personally, i don't promise 2 always wear my rings cos sometimes i forget 2 wear dem (& feel naked all 2rud day). promise rings don't mean nothing if d wearer doesn't enforce it wit dir lives.

btw, d account of dat ur friend sounds too text-book 2 b true oh. na wa o. she drop 4rm heaven?

Jaycee said...

Ain't nothing wrong with purity rings...LOL...

I like how talesandtallies said it, the important thing is not in the ring itself but the promise it represents, to the person and to his/her God.

wordsmith said...

hey honey, its been a minute...i love your post o, as in this was what i needed... i have some gist lol. maybe i will order one!

xx
WS

~Sirius~ said...

I say get one, if you think it'll actually help you by serving it's purpose....

Abujamaiden said...

Tales: Yup, its the promise not the ring. I hope those disney kids stick to plan after all the attention.

Misslove: Its a trend definitely.

FFF: My mother has told me straight up to wait till marriage but Its my own decision.

Jaycee: Word!

Wordsmith: Thanks! Where's the gist?

Sirius: I feel like a purity ring might just attract attention. I think I can stick to celibacy without it but I'll hola if I change my mind.

Just did the post to get y'all's opinion on them.

miz-cynic said...

u can wear it.but mayb dose types dat r not in ur face but can serve ur purpose of keeping u in check n only u knw wt its 4.

Arewa said...

i think purity rings are a good idea depending on the person... not really as a way to shout to the world that one is a virgin or celibate but as a solemn reminder of a promise that i made to myself. i might not even buy an obvious ring, it might be a flashy fashion ring/necklace/anklet but deep inside i would know what it means to me.

Good Job Abuja Maiden!! Hold on to it and u would be better for it...

Arewa!

Buttercup said...

yes, it might be commercialized, but i think its the idea behind it that matters..go for it!

ur friend's life does sound PERFECT!!!!! jeez..good for her tho!

Tisha said...

agreed. i love the idea and will try to get one.


nice blog

doll said...

Did beyonce say she wasn’t gonna wear a ring? She sure flaunting it in “all the single ladies video”

On the purity ring thingy…wateva works 4u or anybody

Buttercup said...

Hey sweets..how r ya?

Abujamaiden said...

Bcup, fine oh. Just rehabing

flabby said...

but u havent blogged in a while sha!

yankeenaijababe said...

Wow!!! been a long time I came here, sometimes one gets so caught up in stuff. I won't mind wearing a purity ring depending on my definition of it. So many use purity rings for fun and some people understand the real significant reason for wearing the ring. The jonas brothers case is wierd in that it raises a controversial issue as in comparing character to belief.lol Hope all is well with you...been a while.

teebay said...

wats the essence of it??

to prove smtin to the world or to oneself??

teebay said...

tanks 4 stoppin by...

Olufunke said...

I like the TLW idea,
It is good to wait till marriage ( even thought its no more popular)

That your friend ....her life sounds too good, happy for her!

ALl the best with you and your boo!
I think with time, he would get used to you and communicate better.
And keep faith dear, dont keep thinking he might dissapoint you.
keep it positive.