Saturday, March 14, 2009

Omo grind for me.

I remember the birth of this dancing style into secondary schools and the drama that came along with it. Wonder if its ever going to fade away partly because in facebook albums younger and younger facebook friends are uploading albums with their J.Los (as my friend says) all the way wherever it it when they are seriously in the grind.

In secondary school, I had a 'friend' who'd gossip all day about who was grinding who, the girl she saw, the guy, blah blah. A friend told me that in her school, one girl took pictures of all the grinders (when grinding was supposedly a bad people thing), printed them and brought them to school the next term= paparazzi shots. Now, its not a big deal but that was 5 years ago.

I watched a comedian (Nigerian) say that back in the day, guys faced the girl to show off their 'baffs' or clothing but now girls (who hardly see/check out the guys clothes), in the wake of feminism, are using their 'feminist' powers to punish guys using grinding skills, and when they go all the way down and back up, CHEI!!! (I'm typing in the comedians tone oh!)

(I mean the guy is the only one enjoying. See, I'll rather the satisfaction be mutual and I don't want no guy grinding on me biko! I'm too feminist joh!)

Watch: (Mr. Lecturer on grinding)

I have really only slow danced with boo, arms around, facing, really close but not any different from if I was slow dancing with any other 'friend' like at senior dance. Even if I'm backing him, its nothing sensual or steamy. I was at a party where everyone stopped dancing to watch this girl (senior year) grind/ hump this poor young man (sophomore). She was really into (early cougar-isms) as in it was soooo intense and 'out of this world' that it was like we were in a cinema (free with chips and soda) and they were the movie (low budget perhaps). She didn't win an Oscar (Akon did in Trinidad) or the guy! She graduated and he found him a freshman girl to date.

Maybe I'm too feminist to be okay 'serving' a guy. That feels like submissiveness (to me) only that there's music playing with disco lights. I don't conform. Somehow I think its classy even though the guy I danced with but didn't grind is thinking I'm Mother Theresa. I either love myself too much or hold my self in extremely high esteem or try to be virtuous and limit the level of man contact.

Another comedian (American) cracked some joke about some chic who was all over him in the club grinding him left right and center. When the party was over, he invited her to 'watch a movie,' actually just to hook up and she started vexing that she's not a whore and all, dude was like "what you were doing in the club sold you out as one" that's why he 'innocently' wanted booty. Guys are funny, I can imagine him asking me for more afterwards. Take about the impression girls send and the way guys interpret.

Did anyone see the viral video of the 4year olds grinding, I felt so bad for the young girl.....

Sorry, spilling my thoughts....tell me what you think. Grinders opinion especially wanted.

So is grinding just fun with everyone, intimate with 'him only', girl-liberating power, or man-serving?

(more grinding posts to come).


Gee said...


Gee said...

Ok so...this is totally hilarious I mean, I also has a girl in my high skool too doing all those paparazzi stuvs.

And about grinding...i think its just nasty especially when there is so much more than just dancing. I have been in parties where during their dance u will just think "Please get a room!"

Such dances!!!
Yay me!!first to

RocNaija said...

Hmmm sounds like an interesting dance move.. not been to a club for a minute so I gues i'll have to youtube it first to get a full idea or what and how raunchy we're talking..

Anonymous said...

I hate Grinding...whether it's the Grinder or Grindee!

~Sirius~ said...

Always amusing to watch.

soul child said...
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soul child said...

i can´t stand the whole grinding thing, it is so disgusting,in a public place, it is an eyesore....that seems to be the only way people dance these days....some of these girls i don´t know what spirit possess them..and you expect the brothers to respect you....just learn how to be decent.!

Anonymous said...

Hey girl. Love your blog. Keep it real always.

Tiwa said...

Omg! grinding is like so normal now compared to when i was in school as well. Back then the limit was guys were holding your waist while you dance facing each other! and even then girls would still be fronting.

I see it as submissveness as well kinda cuz im basically serving the guy. I've been seeing alot of pics lately where the guys are just standing up against the wall and the girls are doing all the work..its crazy mehn. I did have one guy attempt to grind me..err not

Those who think grinding is girl liberating power have been listening to too much beyonce et al..yes i said it:P

bob-ij said...

Lol...@ the watching a movie with soda! ...That's too funny!...No award for them!

I feel you on the juniors grinding though! It's crazy in those days people were hiding and anyone who was grinding was considered

The good ol'days!

Sulihp said...

Lol...this post is funny and it brings back so many memories of 'socials' in school.I don't think it's a problem when ur 'dancing' with ur BF or GF, its kind of slutty if ur going all down on a dude u just met, i mean come on, and the worst is when the guy is just leaning on the wall and the girl is winding and grinding like ders no really bothers me....but it's non of my business sha, unless they r 'dancing' in my line of view.

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wordsmith said...

i know right...and the new fashion of fake sex???

Fashinga said...

lol!!!!!! First time here, will be back!!!

Later luv!!

Buttercup said...

lol..i feel grinding shud only be done with a person u r WILLING to 'finish it off' with..dont go leaving some poor dude hot and bothered for

not that im saying im a

brownskinaijachic said...

i feel u jor. the grinding bizness is not even funny

doug said...

I really dont see why the heck I would want some chick grinding up young doug when I know darned well that it isnt going to lead to anything. And in any case I'm quite conservative so I'd probably politely tell her to keep her goods to herself. Sheeesh!

Femi B said...

hate it when guys want to be rubbing their penis on your ass aka grinding. A lil body contact here and there is not bad but ahah if you are horny whats handgelina there for?

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flabby said...

i havent commented her in a while! doesnt mean im not reading!just means i have no opinions.hope ur gud sweetie!xx

Omo calabar. said...

Nothing is wrong with grinding o..grind dey go

aloted said...

nawa bad bad dance be this o

Anonymous said...

much ado about grinding.....omo me I didnt know there was so much importance attached to grinding oh...heeeeiii me i jus dance and do ma thing and if a girl wana break ma dick [forgive the french] I run!

FrizzyFizzy said...

Lol! I remember the days when if a guy even accidentally touches you it was considered kwaving. lol

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